In 1990 the www (world wide web) was none existing. These three letters have done many wonders for us and they have opened many doors. On the other hand internet activities, games and Television etc. can keep us from leaving our homes, going out. Watching reality shows, TV series can somehow contribute to us feeling we have a social life and that we are sharing this online- television life with other people. Personally I think there is a danger to this habit. The danger of this “not leaving our coach danger”.
For 2 and a half years now my partner, Jakob, our daughter, Julia, the cat, Pardus and I have been living in Luxembourg in Central Europe. Recently we discovered the culture for dance and going out here. In Luxembourg they (I do not know their names or organisations) regularly arrange events that they call Tee Dance and other dance events. There are probably more social gatherings to discover, but we found this as our interest is in particular dance.
The Tee Dance is an afternoon of dancing to band music from about 15:00 – 19.00 o`clock. We have at these events seen and experienced that huge dance floors are occupied with happy dancers this whole timeline. The dance floors are so full that we are bumping into someone else whatever we dance. Here it is a need for bigger the big dance floors to avoid this. This issue is more of a luxury challenge. It is wonderful to watch people at all ages engaging in dance and joy, being themselves, dancing as they feel, dressing as they like and just being happy together with other real people. These events, by the way, can gather from 600-800 people each time they are on and there are several of them each month.
As far as we know there are only two big party events in Oslo that offer a big dance floor with room for real dancing movements, meeting lovely and kind people and in addition an opportunity to dress out of the normal day to day habit.
Somehow these events still have much space and room for more visitors. It makes me wonder why do you stay at home on your coach? And I have to ask these questions:
Is this caused by fear?
Fear of what other people would think of you as a person?
Fear of what other people would think of your suit or your dress, your hair, your make-up?
Fear of communication with people you do not know?
Fear of meeting new people?
Fear of looking stupid in front of others?
Or is this caused by strange ideas?
It is wrong to dream?
It is wrong to dress out of the normal habit?
It is wrong to meet strangers?
It is wrong to image being someone else?
Or just pure laziness.
It is better to stay at home where I feel safe and I do not care for dressing up?
So let us have a look at some of these issues quoted above.
One of my favorite quotes is “you have nothing to fear but fear itself” ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt. So what is there actually to fear?
We are all unique and all of us has something to contribute. Dare to dress however you like. People like Lady Gaga and the newly deceased David Bowie has come far ahead doing just that. There are no strict rules to follow. Let us be ourselves.
The fear of communication is a severe issue. Communication can bring you very far in your lives. That is to say if you want to experience happiness, joy and personal development. Communication with other people is crucial. We never know what is hiding behind the next big door… meeting new people can bring joy, smiles on our faces, laughter and feelings that are new to us. When we dare to move out of our little shells and stand in front of others looking a bit different we cannot die from it, nor get ill. It is just for fun.
The dreamers have changed this world over many ears. Positive dreams, goals and ideas bring this world forwards. Just think about Walt Disney. How many of us love his fairy tales and dreams. We could enjoy being in one too. My father, Esben Esther, gives this advice to couples to spice up their relationships “every third months (90 days)” we advise you to do something completely different than your daily routine together. So, what about entering a little daydream?
When once in a while we change our clothes, our surroundings and our habits is all to the good and it can bring changes to lives not only for ourselves, but to our fellow human being too.
So let us not be so self-focused, but let us go out there and let the fact that we are just being there for others getting us out of our coaches and homes.
This post is in particular for Norwegian people as we experience the culture in middle Europe to be different, so to our fellow Norwegian’s do not sit on the cold fence to long, so the cold reaches your hearts. Warm them up with social activities.